a To dare, to dream, to win: June 2007




Saturday, June 30, 2007

now i know..

y my mum is so particular abt the cleanliness of e floor in e house..

yes finally i realise it, after i clean e whole house today, sweep + wipe e floor.. dun ask me why i suddenly do it, maybe i'm too bored. lol

anyway, ya after i done everything i realise i can't stand any stains on e grd.. at least i finally experience it for myself

hopefully i will have more time to help out next time.. haha

updates updates..

1st thing: yes mr. sh is coming back from US on mon. hopefully will soon have time to go out with him since next week is preparation for 7.7 + start of fyp.. both of us agreed tt it seems eons since we met each other though it's supposed to be just 1 year.

had a gd talk with him. and told him abt some things and obtained some advice. haha. some truths in wad he say?

2nd thing: yday was milk run goodie bag collection. many thanks to all those who came down to collect personally. sorry for e rain and i suppose it's a bit chaotic. hope e souvenir is nice lol

3rd thing: i'm bored. ok need to do sth more constructive in the afternoon

not enuff therapy...

went TM walk walk today. seriously i wan to buy a watch but hmmm e designs at every shop is e same n not sth i wan.. maybe i shd go the herren and see e 专卖店。。

anyway not i feel rich but just feel like spending.

feel like going for another sprint tmr but maybe it's not e time, ankle area still hurting n seriously i had no idea wad is it. strange.

2.4km soon. so i can have more $ to spend

oh ya my hp bill come. it explode but damage is controlled. yes control is the key, manage it.. to control n manage

time to slp. no running but at least some work out tmr.. please wish me luck, i dun wan to wake up 3 times again

Friday, June 29, 2007

最近比较烦。。

ok dun ask me i 烦 wad.. it's just a feeling, but talking abt 烦 makes me think of my fyp, i insert my 12 choices last sun n haven't had a 2nd look since. shd do it soon...


anyway so i decide to wake up early, yes i woke up at 745 today, after slp at ard 1 (though i told everyone i going to slp at 12 but i keep talking).. actually didn't had a gd rest, woke up feeling super tired. woke up many times also, once at 430 cos of some #@!@#!$ stupid dream, then i reply my fren's sms which he send on tue :s. then on my com for music to slp

wake up again at 715, though i rmb i toss ard many times b4 tt, tt's wake up intermittently.. yup b4 finally waking up at 745

my ankle there still hurts, but i just wan to run. i just need to to remove the 烦-ness. hah when u run at fast pace u will just feel the tiredness to be 烦 ba. actually i wanted a longer jog rather than my normal 2.4 km cos of my ankle . initially when i ran, my ankle was pain so hmmm not tt fast, but after tt i just pick up pace, despite the pain till in e end i think it's more of tiredness than pain. then some sec sch i think having run in e opposite direction, then of cos i cna't slow down so just i pick up e pace, ya

actually my stomach was hurting (weak stomach since young) cos maybe of e milk i drank, eee, but heck it just continue .. ya so really half dead. wanted to do pull up but i went another route and strangely this time i lost my way! i can't find e small park. but nonetheless ended up at another playground with e bar. barely did 10 n i nearly puke :s

end of e run. need to do my morning gongyo n maybe slp. hah


PS oh ya if anyone is wondering abt the 最近 post, they are all 李圣杰's song titles.. but i suppose in Buddhism everything happen for a reason .. lol

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Thursday, June 28, 2007

it's mystic,

how if something nv happen, another thing might not have happened. and how subsequent things might not have happened.


something are just funny

Monday, June 25, 2007

等等等等。。

等什么。。

等谁。。

不要问我在写什么。。

enlarged photos..

if e one in e previous post are too small haha










milk run @ botanic gardens!

haha more pic.. from the treasure hunt we had




pic pic!

think ppl are going to find my blog boring cos it's black with no pic.. haha shall post 2 pics of the fish n co on wed! =) but i look funny in e pic, 1st pic not smiling cos i feeling my mouth inside is a bit the filled, while e 2nd smile is also not gd..haha



Sunday, June 24, 2007

yes i'm back!

1 week since i last blogged.. well shall recap abit on this week where i went out practically every nite, well, last week was same tooo..

anyway final week at work was spent in office....nth much on mon... mon nite slacked at home, was supposed to help out with e father's day souvenir but i stayed home n help design the milk run souvenir for HL. well tt one is impt but i suppose partly is i came home n too lazy to go out...

tue was milk run planning

wed was rather fun! thanks mr. jf for the fish n co treat. but we had to rush down to centerpoint cos he had a meeting before that and we are, well, rush for time.. i had swordfish collar but i didn't take any photo. the serving is bigggg but with quite a lot of bones too. i like the fish with the sauce. e vegetable was gd too.. after that we went watch movie! f4 at cine... oh ya saw jade seah near the SHE casio advertisement busstop outside orchard emerald. actually i saw her, then i was thinking this ger looks familar. 没想到。。mr jf, who was behind me, suddenly come to me and ask "u got see jade seah?" then still say she sorta make an eye and smile to him. :o... then i ask why he nv take photo with her ...

anyway f4, well, 1st time i watch f4, think e feedback is not tt gd. haha. ppl are wondering why is victor in e plot, but i suppose it's to show the importance of teamwork ba. ok la some part is funny but i suppose it is rather predictable. anyway after i watch e show, i got up n my lower calf hurts... zz

thurs. nth much. do saigang at work, arrange e catalogues in alpha order AGAIN. tt time me n fe was asked to do, and arrange according to the diff types, eg pumps, values..but this time they wan to shift again. and this time is EVERYTHING in alpha order..this time we got like 5 ppl instead of 2 tt time.. gd thing is we no need worry of what catalogue is this, but there are those irritating "not-in-file, thin-like-nobody-biz-catalogue" which are so many, and u have to arrange all in alpha order.. but in e end, fe come n say .. all same alphabet can liao.. no need alpha order. and cos of that we increase our speed by like 10x. lol but i think we left the files on e tables. wonder who will clear tt up..

was info-sharing in e evening. nv really rehearse for e presentation at all, though luckily e day b4 we went through once. technical is just boring but i think it was ok, well i'm not gd with presentation... then we had a ktv sesssion, yes in the lounge.. e songs are "u cannot compare with outside ktv but well, e popular songs are there" (but dunno if they will top up e songs or not).. basically all e just come gals and the leaving guys (which are us) are all required to sing. but tt's only after everyone else left..hha

then rushed to district planning(yes the 1st planning) in which i think i aggravate my injury; i feel a slight sharp pain when i was rushing over n think tt is wad causes e sprain ankle..

fri- paper shredding there. think its quite a waste, esp those one -sided paper, think most are also shredded. had dinner at raffles hotel restaurant... and the 330ml evian costs $9 (tell me it's free flow pls :s) ok ordered beef pot roast.. super tender and yummy... service there is gd also... spent like $30 in 1 day, the amount which i use in e 4 days b4 :o

rushed home n discuss the guidance to be shared for milk run.

ended IA with mixed feelings.. 6 mths there. seriously will definitely have some feelings for e place. no sense of loss, cos luckily i will have other things to be bz with now.. anyway i will worry for mr. jf.. no more saigang warriors to help him, now he have to handle all e data himself. doubt there will be any interns coming in also :o .. double e pay if they wan ppl enter e company la... will miss my daily dose of swee heng donuts though haha

sat- milk run at botanic gardens. didn't run. bo bian but joined in the treasure hunt. it's fun but i suppose absence of jack's aura makes the attendance lesser by quite alot. (think they go TW tgt or sth). anyway it was fun, lol trainer of cos will say fun one rite..

end of all e training, it will be milk run next sun. i suppose i will miss the weekly planning and fun (i suppose e recee e rest went every week which i had to miss out was just as fun also)...

wad's after milk run? hopefully some other events coming up.. orientation n graduation maybe? ya suppose so..

a long post, in e strange writing manner.

time to slp. supposed to do YL duty tmr but thanks to my leg, i can finally end my 20 consecutive wake-up-b4-0715-days

Sunday, June 17, 2007

我做 uncle 了!

went to visit my cute baby nephew born on 14 June 2007.. yeah he's a pig like me... and he sure is a pig cos he weighs a whooping 3.61kg at birth..but he looks quite small size leh.. he's called zenon, 郭泽勇。。dunno if e yong is spell correctly lol.. he was practically slping e whole time i was there.except once he sneeze a few times.. so cuteeee

and my forever lucky auntie bought 4D using his head circumference n won starter or sth.. and i got $100.. though i didn't chip in a single cent lol

anyway here's e pic of him.. sorry too lazy n bz to edit more of it

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Thursday, June 14, 2007

1000th post..

quite some time since i last blogged. trying to find sth meaningful for this significant 1000th post.

but i suppose i shall leave it short n sweet with a resolution..

"To become a better person and to fulfill the goals i set last week"

Sunday, June 10, 2007

To my young friends -- in "A piece of mirror"

Youth is a time of rapid change, from day to day and moment to moment. It can also be a time of confusion. You may feel as if you are standing alone in a wasteland or on a battlefield. Sometimes you may think you cannot believe in anyone, that no one loves you, or even that you have no reason to live.

Grades at school or university are probably not your only worries. You may have problems at home, with money or health, with how you feel about your looks, with members of the opposite sex, or with friends. From feeling confident and upbeat one moment, you may be overwhelmed with insecurity, frustration or apathy the next.

You may have fundamental questions about yourself and your identity: Who am I? What should I do with my life? It is quite natural to feel unsure about the best way to proceed. If you have not yet decided on your future course, I feel the best thing is just to concentrate your energies on what you need to do right now, and gradually your full potential will emerge.

The most important thing is not to give up on yourself when you are young, giving in to negativity or cynicism. Do not compare yourself with others. Be true to who you are and try to cherish and feel content with your own irreplaceable life. Even if you are sometimes laughed a, or people let you down, keep going forward and never let yourself be defeated.

Setting yourself targets is a good idea. Even if you have the tendency to only stick at something for two or three days, just keep renewing your determination. When you are studying and you think, “I can’t do any more. I want to go out,” you may decide to challenge yourself to keep going for just another five minutes. People who can persevere even this much will achieve great things in life.

Youth is the time for building your foundation in life. You cannot build a tall building without first making its foundations solid and secure. In the same way, if you neglect study or shy away from hard work while you are young, you cannot really build yourself a great future.

A smooth, easy life in which everything goes your way may seem great, but you will not be able to develop your character if everything always works out according to plan. You may even become spoiled – a person who cannot think about others and who is no help when things get tough.

If your parents are poor or lacking education, or they are always quarrelling with each other, try not to think yourself unlucky. This is a truly human situation that will help you develop as a person. You may feel it would have been better to be born into a rich or successful family. But often people who grow up in such a world act like well-behaved automations, bound by formality, tradition and appearances, lacking genuine warmth and spontaneity.

There is no such thing as a whole life of smooth sailing. Therefore, you do yourself a favour by taking on difficult challenges, forging and strengthening yourself in your youth, while you are healthy and strong. I hope you can see all difficulties as the material that will enable you to develop a big heart and become people of depth and substance.

Try to be as active as possible. Just by being young you possess a treasure more valuable thean power or fame. To be young is to have hope, passion and freedom. Your whole life lies ahead of you, brimming with possibilities.

Rather than a life of blank pages, it is better to live a life crammed full of memories of struggles and wonderfully varied experiences. Not to make waves, not to leave behind any history, but just to grow old and die, is a sad way to live.

Do not wait! While still in your youth, you can become the main actors in the human drama unfolding around you, the shapers of history. Even if you feel powerless, that it is difficult to believe in yourself, please try not to be easily swayed by the views of others, and hold true to what you know is right. Try to believe in yourself.

I hope you will develop sharp powers of perception, then lead the way to breaking through the apathy and stagnation of society around you. So many people are complacent, thinking, “Out of all these people, surely someone will do something.” Such cowardly people avoid facing problems, assuming that everything will somehow work out in the end.

Please challenge the injustices and corruption you see around you – speak out and fight against any abuses of power and authority that you see. Confront and challenge every situation with the full force of your character. Live with honesty and integrity and produce results. Set your sights high and fight to achieve your goals with your whole being and spirit.

Edward Whymper was a young nineteenth-century English mountaineer who set out to climb the ‘unclimbable’ – the Matterhorn in the Alps. Since ancient times it had never been scaled. At twenty-one, Whymer determined to succeed where no one had succeded before. His first attempt failed, but he resolved not to give up, and year after year he pitted himself against the mountain. On one attempt, he got within 430 metres of the summit, but he slipped and fell sixty metres and was seriously injured. Another time a rockfall forced him to descend. Seven times he was defeated, but he did not give up. On July 14, 1865, on his eighth attempt, at the age of twenty-five, he finally made it to the top.

Like him, by challenging a great goal, you can break through your limitation and realize incredible growth.

It all comes down to you. I hope you will not rely on others or wait for them to do something. Try to develop such a strong sense of responsibility that you can stand up to the fiercest storms, confidently proclaiming, “I’ll do it. Just watch me!” Please confront reality, look it squarely in the face, and with guts, wisdom and strength, challenge everything that lies ahead of you.

run @ bishan park!

today's run at as if said, bishan park.. woke up at 6 as i said...

ran 3.3, 1 rd, followed by touch rugby.. actually didn't really run.. haha cos "leave no woman behind!"

erm but i was not active today, next week's emcee again.. must do better than tt time n better than this week. touch rugby was fun.. learnt something new at least..i will say it's not easy to play sia cos must pass back cannot pass front.. cmaybe too many ppl so also not easy to play.. but nonetheless it was fun..

well need wake up at 6.. need slp soon.

Saturday, June 09, 2007

nice dinner! fun dinner!

had dinner with the IA interns at 翡翠! food is not bad, though feel a bit hungry.. haha... had a super nice talk with them.. reliving the 6 mths together... guess i will miss the ntu guys! nvm 2 weeks later, our 约定啊!

actually was supposed to go for a prayer meeting, hmm, but i supposed i pang seh the guys too many times.. 该做些补偿。。。neeed to wake up at 6am next 2 days, milk run training tmr and duty on sun... bz but i suppose well spent time is better than slping late i doing nth.

time to slp

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

A piece of mirror part 3

"A sense of purpose" -- Daisaku Ikeda

"Why was I born into this world?" is a question which everyone asks themselves at least once in their life. I believe that having a deep sense of purpose - knowing in the depths of one's being what one was born for, is a great source of happiness.

A successful entrepreneur once remarked that even among the world's wealthiest people, those who lack a real sense of purpose in life often spend their final years in lonely solitude. Sometimes, having amassed great wealth and realised all their worldly ambitions, he found that they were left with a sense of emptiness and meaninglessness.

On the other hand, to be filled each day with a rewarding sense of exhilaration and purpose, a sense of tasks accomplished and deep fulfilment - people who feel this way are happy. Those who have this sense of satisfaction, even if they are extremely busy, are much happier than those who enjoy great ease and leisure but feel empty inside.

A clear sense of purpose gives birth to courage and wisdom. It enables you to look beyond the victory or defeat of the moment and see things in their true perspective. It can fill each instant of life with joy, even in the midst of trying circumstances.

Whatever their occupation - mother, company employee, artist, fisherman or farmer, I believe that each person has their own path in life, a unique mission that only they can fulfil.

Discovering this purpose or mission is a lifelong task. It is not something that someone can tell you or that comes upon you all of a sudden. You, yourself, must find the reasons for living, the unique contribution that is yours and yours alone to make.

Buddhism uses the example of flowering fruit trees – cherry, plum, pear, etc – to illustrate how each person has a unique mission in life. A cherry tree fulfils its purpose by blooming and bearing fruit as a cherry tree. It never tries to be anything other than itself. It never imitates the blossoms of other flowering trees or wastes time being jealous of them. Rather, it patiently bears the frosts and snows of winter, drawing energy from the earth itself, pushing its roots deeper into the soil. Then, with the arrival of spring, in a burst it unleashes all the life force that it had been storing up, sending forth countless blossoms.

Everyone has some kind of gift. Being talented does not mean just being a good musician, writer or athlete. There are many kinds of talent. You maybe be a great conversationalist, or make friends easily, or be able to put others at ease. Or you may be punctual, patient, reliable, kind or optimistic. OR you may love taking on new challenges, be strongly committed to helping others, or have an ability to bring them joy. Without doubt, you possess your special jewel, your own unique talent.

In the same way, each of us has a mission that only we can fulfil. That mission will not be found somewhere far away, in doing something special or extraordinary. Even those people who seem to have led great lives have really only done what they felt they had to do in order to truly be themselves.

We realise our purpose in life by doing our very best where we are right at this moment, by thinking about what we can do to improve the life of those right around us.

I often think of the life of Rosa Parks, an ordinary African American women returning home after a hard day’s work in the tailoring section of a department store by bus evening in December 1955. Although the bus driver ordered her to give up her seat to a white passenger, as the discriminatory laws of the times required, she refused. Her single word, “No.” – the courage of this one ordinary woman – changed history, and her ordinary day took on an eternal significance. Rosa Parks was arrested for her resistance and this set off an explosion of righteous anger among the African American population, largely because of the regard in which she was held – she was respected in her community as a cheerful, warm and intelligent woman. A boycott of the bus service was organized, and within a year segregated busing had been declared illegal throughout the United States.

When I first met Rosa Parks I was struck by her warm personality. She was humble and yet I could see that she was a person of unbending conviction. Now in her eighties, Rosa Parks remains an untiring champion of civil rights, working especially to share hope and a vision of the future with the young people she loves so dearly. Through her sense of conviction, this solitary individual became a leader who transformed the world. One moment of bravery opened the path of her mission in life.

You cannot discover and realise your purpose in life with half-hearted efforts. To follow the dream in your heart and fulfil your mission requires true courage. Not the courage of battlefield heroes, but a courage much closer to home. Most of us, before being defeated by a problem are first defeated by ourselves. A weak-spirited or cowardly person, before hesitating at the wall of an obstacle, will shrink before his own shadow, frightened by his own imagination, and will be ultimately undone by the coward in his own heart.

Courageous people are first masters of their own heart. I firmly believe that courage is the key that opens the door to happiness.

To create value and contribute to the world, what do you need? You need to develop and polish your character until it shines. The ultimate strengths in life are not a clever tongue or wealth nor fame or power. The real ‘weapon’ or ‘tool’ for living a successful life is what is left over when all empty artifice has been stripped away- the quality of your character will lead you to the greatest happiness in the end.

You will not find your mission by standing still. The way to find it is by challenging yourself in something – I would almost say it does not matter what. Then by making consistent effort, the direction you should take will open before you quite naturally, just as wide, new horizons open up before someone walking up a hill. Little by little you will come to understand your mission. That is why it is so important to have the courage to ask yourself what it is that you should really be doing now, at this very moment.

It is likewise important to set your sights high. The greater the tasks you choose to take on – one step at a time – the more rewarding and joyful your life will be. If you decide to dedicate your life to a truly noble objective, such as the work of creating a peaceful world for future generations, then you will be able to savour a truly deep sense of satisfaction and happiness.

A person with a strong mission is a source of light. For each person, there is no darkness in the world. And just as a single lighthouse can guide many ships through dangerous water, a single person shining with the light of genuine happiness can help friends and family- the entire model- their entire society- find the smooth open water of peace and fulfilment.

Monday, June 04, 2007

What is happiness? A piece of mirror part 2

A piece of mirror -- What is happiness? by Daisaku Ikeda

What is the purpose of life? It is to become happy. Whatever country or society people live in, they all have the same deep desire: to become happy.

Yet, there are few ideals as difficult to grasp as that of happiness. In our daily life we constantly experience happiness and unhappiness, but we are still quite ignorant as to what happiness really is.

A young friend of mine once spent a long time trying to work out what happiness was, particularly happiness for women. When she first thought about happiness, she saw it as a matter of becoming financially secure or getting married (The view in Japanese society then was that happiness for a woman was only to be found in marriage.) But looking at friends who were married, she realized that marriage did not necessarily guarantee happiness. She saw couples who had been passionately in love suffering from discord soon after their wedding. She saw women who had married men with money or status but who fought constantly with their husbands.

Gradually, she realized that the secret of happiness lay in building a strong inner self that no trial or hardship could ruin. She saw that happiness for anyone – man or woman – does not come simply from having a formal education, from wealth or from marriage. It begins with having the strength to confront and conquer one’s own weakness. Only then does it become possible to lead a truly happy life and enjoy a successful marriage.

She finally told me, “Now I can say with confidence that happiness doesn’t exist in the past or in the future. It only exists within our state of life right now, here in the present, as we face the challenges of daily life.”

I agree entirely. You yourself know best whether you are feeling joy or struggling with suffering. These things are not known to other people. Even a man who has great wealth, social recognition and many awards may still be shadowed by indescribable suffering deep in his heart. On the other hand, an elderly woman who is not fortunate financially, leading a simple life alone, may feel the sun of joy and happiness rising in her heart each day.

Happiness is not a life without problems, but rather the strength to overcome the problems that come our way. There is no such thing as a problem-free life; difficulties are unavoidable. But how we experience and react to problems depends on us.


Buddhism teaches that we are each responsible for our own happiness or unhappiness. Our vitality – the amount of energy or ‘lifeforce’ we have – is in fact the single most important factor in determining whether or not we are happy.

True happiness is to be found within, in the state of our hearts. It does not exist on the far side of some distant mountains. It is within you, yourself. However much you try, you can never run away from yourself. And if you are weak, suffering will follow you wherever you go. You will never find happiness if you do not challenge your weaknesses and change yourself from within. Happiness is to be found in the dynamism and energy of your own life as you struggle to overcome one obstacle after another. This is why I believe that a person who is active and free from fear is truly happy.

The challenges we face in life can be compared to a tall mountain rising before a mountain climber. For someone who has not trained properly, whose muscles and reflexes are weak and slow, every inch of the climb will be filled with terror and pain. The exact same climb, however, will be a thrilling journey for someone who is prepared, whose arms and legs have been strengthened by constant training. With each step forward and up, beautiful new views will come into sight.

My teacher used to talk about two kinds of happiness – ‘relative’ and ‘absolute’ happiness. Relative happiness is happiness that depends on things outside ourselves: friends and family, surroundings, the size of our home or family income. This is what we feel when a desire is fulfilled, or something we have longed for is obtained. While the happiness such things bring us is certainly real, the fact is that none of this lasts forever. Things change. People change. This kind of happiness shatters easily when external conditions alter.

Relative happiness is also based on comparison with others. We may feel this kind of happiness at having a newer or bigger home than the neighbours. But that feeling turns to misery the moment they start making new additions to theirs!

Absolute happiness, on the other hand, is something we must find within. It means establishing a state of life in which we are never defeated by trials, and where just being alive is a source of great joy. This persists no matter what we might be lacking, or what might happen around us. A deep sense of joy is something that can only exist in the innermost reach of our life, and which cannot be destroyed by any external forces. It is eternal and inexhaustible.

This kind of satisfaction is to be found in consistent and repeated effort, so that we can say, “Today, again, I did my very best. Today, again, I have no regrets. Today, again, I won.” The accumulated result of such efforts is a life of great victory.

What we should compare is not ourselves against others. We should compare who we are today against who we were yesterday, who we are today against who we will be tomorrow. While this may seem simple and obvious, true happiness is found in a life of constant advancement. And, the same worries that could have made us miserable can actually be a source of growth when we approach them with courage and wisdom.

One friend whose dramatic life proved this was Natalia Satz, who founded the first children’s theatre in Moscow. In the 1930s, she and her husband were marked by Soviet Union’s secret police. Even though they were guilty of no crime, her husband was arrested and executed and she was sent to a prison camp in the frozen depths of Siberia. After she recovered from the initial shock, she started looking at her situation, not with despair, but for opportunity.

She realized that many of her fellow prisoners had special skills and talents. She began organizing a ‘university’, encouraging the prisoners to share their knowledge. “You. You are a scientist. Teach us about science. You are an artist, Talk to us about art.” In this way, the boredom and terror of the prison camp were transformed into the joy of learning and teaching. Eventually, she even made us of her own unique talents to organize a theatre group.

She survived the five-year prison sentence, and dedicated the rest of her long life to creating children’s theatre. When we met for the first time in Moscow in 1981, she was already in her 80s. She was as radiant and buoyant as a young girl. Her smile was the smile of someone who was triumphed over the hardships of life. Hers is the kind of spirit I had in mind when I wrote the following poem on ‘Happiness’:

A person with a vast heart is happy.
Such a person lives each day with a broad and embracing spirit.
A person with a strong will is happy.
Such a person can confidently enjoy life, never defeated by suffering.
A person with a profound spirit is happy.
Such a person can savour life’s depths while creating meaning and value that will last for eternity.
A person with a pure mind is happy.
Such a person is always surrounded by refreshing breezes of joy.

Saturday, June 02, 2007

A piece of mirror part 1

yes as promised in my previous post, i'm going to blog articles from the book, dunno how many i will type out, all are meaningful but typing out even the 3-4pages per essay is not easy...

i will start with this very relevant essay "Young Love" by Daisaku Ikeda

It is as natural for young people to fall in love as it is for flowers to bloom in spring.

And yet, the agonies of love are many and varied.
While everyone is free to fall in love or be attracted to someone, and no one has the right to meddle in your private affairs, I feel it is also important not to lose sight of pursuing your own personal development. There are of course no rules on love and marriage, and no one has the right to restrict you in any way. But I hate to see young people getting involved in frivolous relationships, and suffering and agonising over them when they should be fulfilled and happy.

My mentor in life, Mr Toda, often said that when women act with dignity in relationships, problems can be avoided. Women, he said, should not have an easy-going, careless attitude concerning love, as this maybe lead to regrets and suffering.

While I am writing this with young women particularly in mind, much of what I am saying also applies to young men.

To me, love should be a force that helps us expand our lives and bring out our potential with fresh vitality. This is the ideal, but all too often people lose all objectivity when they fall in love.

The question is "Does this person inspire you to work harder, or distract you from what you have to do? Does their presence make you more determined to devote great energies to your activities, to be a better person? Do they inspire you to realise your future goals and work towards them? Or is that person your central focus, overshadowing everything else?"

If you find that you are neglecting things that you should be doing, forgetting your purpose in life because of the relationship you are in, then I would guess that you might be on the wrong path. A healthy relationship, in my view, is one in which two people encourage each other to reach their respective goals, while sharing each other's hopes and dreams. A relationship should be a source of inspiration, invigoration and hope.

Rather than becoming so love-struck that you create a world in which only the two of you exist, it is much healthier to learn from those aspects of your loved one that you respect and admire, and continue to make efforts to improve and develop yourself. Antoine de Saint-Exupery, the author of The Little Prince, once wrote, "Love is not two people gazing at each other, but two people looking ahead together in the same direction."

Of course, much of daily life tends to be ordinary and unexciting. Making steady efforts to improve ourselves can be trying. And then, when you fall in love, life seems filled with drama and excitement and you feel like the leading character in a book. But if you lose yourself in love just because you are bored, and veer from your path in life, then love is nothing more than escapism. But sadly many people believe that the kind of love is the be-all and end-all, deluding themselves that as long as they are in love, nothing else matters.

Even if you try to use love as an escape, the euphoria is unlikely to last for long. If anything, you may only find yourself with more problems along with a great deal of pain and sadness. However much you may try, you can never run away from yourself. If you remain weak inside, suffering will only follow you wherever you go. You will never find happiness if you do not change yourself from within. Happiness is not something that anyone else, even a love, can give you. You have to achieve it by yourself. And the only way to do so is by developing your own character and capacity as a human being, by fully maximising your potentially . If you sacrifice your own growth and talent for love, you absolutely will not find happiness.

My concern in saying this is purely for the sake of young people -- particularly young women who are often very vulnerable to persuasion by youngm men, They can sometimes act as if they are stunned and lose their ability to make calm, rational decisions. Since young women are the ones who most often get hurt, they have every right to assert their dignity and look after their own welfare.

It is precisely for this reason that I feel it is important for young women to develop inner strength and self-respect.

It is demeaning to be constantly seeking approval. If you find yourself in a relationship where you are not treated the way your heart tells you you should be, I hope you will have the courage and dignity to decide that you are better off running the risk of being alone for the time being rather than enduring an unhappy relationship.

Real love is not two people clinging to each other; it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality. A shallow person will only have shallow relationships. If you want to experience real love, it is important first to develop a strong self-identity. True love is not about doing whatever the other person wants you to do, or pretending that you are something you are not. Ideal love is fostered only between two sincere, mature and independent people.

milk run!!! run run run

looks like my sat's post will all be abt milk run.. haha

this week's run at west coast, supposed to be marshals so need to reach at 830.. met up ivan for it. so paiseh cos i was like 5 min late, then BOMS who was taking bus from her home, say bus coming in 2 stops, so i basically ran from JE to e 176 bus stop, somemore JEC was not open so we took e long route, but the 2 long leggers made our way to the bus on time. .haha

do help a little...but didnt really do much as marshals and the sign i made wasn't even used. haha this training supposed to lead warm up, hmmm somehow think i shout ok ba? dunno somehow feel a bit high today in a way. haha.. e run was quite nth much .. haha e 1 round is cfm less than 2km.. though we ran 2 rds

then play captain's ball.. fun but it was a tie for both teams till e end, so i supposed everyone is a winner! haha, then was faith training which was very meaningful..

went NUS to bathe then rush to tampines for cic meeting.. dunno wad time the meeting supposed to start, think 230 ba, but we reach like 3 n it was too late already.. bo bian also. things to ponder abt in e meeting..

anyway, gm lend me "a piece of mirror" by Daisaku Ikeda, read 25% on e bus, very meaningful, so expect my next few entries to be essays from the book..

Friday, June 01, 2007

long day..

wake up at 9 today.. havent wake up later than 630 for more than 1 week, due to duty n milk run training.. but i slp late yday...

anyway went ktv today! with the unlikely ppl also haha.. anyway reach late.. end up k-lunch become k without lunch and pay e same.. cos there is no more lunch... dunno why they nv order more.. wth rite.. even some ppl who book then come late also no lunch then angrily walk away... anyway paid e same price but at least get 3 hr though we register at ard 1130..actually i shd have go queue 1st instead of wait 5 min for felix, then maybe will have lunch, though i suppose i will go lost at marina square 1st.. anyway e session is not bad, though at the start dunno wad happen to my voice and towards the end my ear got blocked.. zz .. and mr. jf is gd i must say.. haha

after ktv, without lunch, went queensway. paiseh was supposed to meet qw at 3 (he is nice to accompany me to buy).. but end up my k end at 230 then dilly dally drag a bit, then i reach queenstown at ard 330.. i admit normally i cheapskate one take shuttle bus to AH. then this time i decide to take bus.. thinking its in e same direction,没想到。。the 51 bring me to redhill zz.. immediately alight n took back.. but waited like till 345.. zz and TWO 51 come together.. so reached queensway at 4..so made him waited for 45 min darn paiseh... (gm pangseh us but ok too long to elaborate)

anyway ate e laksa there.. come in already smell tt, how to dun eat... not filling but nice enuff! yum yum... then shop for shoes.. cut the story short, ended up with this



it's obvious it is definitely not white rite? BOMs say its white.. ok la lighting not gd but it dun look white lor.. anyway. it's soccer court shoes.. dunno why they cost cheaper than e normal nike shoes... it's 79.. got another one exactly same design, only tt e sole is diff (it's black and think for walking), it cost more than double.. $166.. dun ask me y like tt.. actually wanted sneakers but nike ones are over 100 too above budget..

after tt, went to e east region faith training prep, didn't help in anyway, but actually i shd have gone e lion befrienders prep. dunno if they need ppl.. then after tt is dinner then go dmkkai... ok la e sharing is gd.. well need to put in more effort in the reach out